Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Scalp Madness

Right now I'm having hair issues due to the amount of new growth that i have experienced since my re-tightening. At this point I still have two and a half more weeks to go before a next appointment. I don't know what I'm going to do to my hair until then.
Any cute idea remedies that anyone has used?
My solutions: cute head bands and washing once a week to remove the fuzzy look.

Tuesday, May 6, 2008

Off Topic: Mildred Loving: Strong Black Women

May Mildred Loving Rest In Peace:

>> From today's New York Times.com> >

In Loving v. Virginia, Warren wrote that miscegenation laws violated the Constitution's equal protection clause. "We have consistently denied the constitutionality of measures which restrict the rights of citizens on account of race," he said. By their own widely reported accounts, Mrs. Loving and her husband, Richard, were in bed in their modest house in Central Point in the early morning of July 11, 1958, five weeks after their wedding, when the county sheriff and two deputies, acting on an anonymous tip, burst into their bedroom and shined flashlights in their eyes. A threatening voice demanded, "Who is this woman you're sleeping with?" Mrs. Loving answered, "I'm his wife." Mr. Loving pointed to the couple's marriage certificate hung on the bedroom wall. The sheriff responded, "That's no good here." The certificate was from Washington, D.C., and under Virginia law, a marriage between people of different races performed outside Virginia was as invalid as one done in Virginia.

At the time, it was one of 16 states that barred marriages between races. After Mr. Loving spent a night in jail and his wife several more, the> couple pleaded guilty to violating the Virginia law, the Racial Integrity Act. Under a plea bargain, their one-year prison sentences were suspended on the condition that they leave Virginia and not return together or at the same time for 25 years. Judge Leon M. Bazile, in language Chief Justice Warren would recall, said that if God had meant for whites and blacks to mix, he would have not placed them on different continents. Judge Bazile reminded the> defendants that "as long as you live you will be known as a felon." They paid court fees of $36.29 each, moved to Washington and had three children. They returned home occasionally, never together.

But times were tough financially, and the Lovings missed family, friends and their easy country lifestyle in the rolling Virginia hills. By 1963, Mrs. Loving could stand the ostracism no longer. Inspired by the civil rights movement and its march on Washington, she wrote> Attorney General Robert F. Kennedy and asked for help. He wrote her back, and referred her to the American Civil Liberties Union. The A.C.L.U. took the case. Its lawyers, Bernard S. Cohen and Philip J. Hirschkop, faced an immediate problem: the Lovings had pleaded guilty and had no right to appeal. So they asked Judge Bazile to set aside his original verdict. When he refused, they appealed. The Virginia Supreme Court of Appeals upheld the lower court, and the case went to the United States Supreme Court. Mr. Cohen recounted telling Mr. Loving about various legal theories applying to the case. Mr. Loving replied, "Mr. Cohen, tell the court I love my wife, and it is just unfair that I can't live with her in Virginia."

Mildred Delores Jeter's family had lived in Caroline County, Va., for generations, as had the family of Richard Perry Loving. The area was known for friendly relations between races, even though marriages were forbidden. Many people were visibly of mixed race, with Ebony magazine reporting in 1967 that black "youngsters easily passed for white in neighboring towns." Mildred's mother was part Rappahannock Indian, and her father was part Cherokee. She preferred to think of herself as Indian rather than black.

Mildred and Richard began spending time together when he was a rugged-looking 17 and she was a skinny 11-year-old known as Bean. He attended an all-white high school for a year, and she reached 11th grade at an all-black school. When Mildred became pregnant at 18, they decided to do what was elsewhere deemed the right thing and get married. They both said their initial motive was not to challenge Virginia law.

"We have thought about other people," Mr. Loving said in an interview with Life magazine in 1966, "but we are not doing it just because somebody had to do it and we wanted to be the ones. We are doing it for us." In his classic study of segregation, "An American Dilemma," Gunnar Myrdal wrote that "the whole system of segregation and discrimination is designed to prevent eventual inbreeding of the races." But miscegenation laws struck deeper than other segregation acts, and> the theory behind them leads to chaos in other facets of law. This is because they make any affected marriage void from its inception. Thus, all children are illegitimate; spouses have no inheritance rights; and heirs cannot receive death benefits.

"When any society says that I cannot marry a certain person, that society has cut off a segment of my freedom," the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. said in 1958.

Virginia's law had been on the books since 1662, adopted a year after Maryland enacted the first such statute. At one time or another, 38 states had miscegenation laws. State and federal courts consistently upheld the prohibitions, until 1948, when the California Supreme Court overturned California's law. Though the Supreme Court's 1967 decision in the Loving case struck down miscegenation laws, Southern states were sometimes slow to change their constitutions;

Alabama became the last state to do so, in 2000. Mr. Loving died in a car accident in 1975, and the Lovings' son Donald died in 2000. In addition to her daughter, Peggy Fortune, who lives in Milford, Va., Mrs. Loving is survived by her son, Sidney, of Tappahannock, Va.; eight grandchildren; and 11 great-grandchildren. Mrs. Loving stopped giving interviews, but last year issued a statement on the 40th anniversary of the announcement of the Supreme Court ruling, urging that gay men and lesbians be allowed to marry.

*May they know that their lives and their struggle to be free and happy was an example for me to follow. Who ever you love and for what ever the reasons, finding love is the most important thing. The divorce rate doesn't change due to your race.
From Mildred Herself:
I'm surrounded as I am now by wonderful children and grandchildren, not a day goes by thatI don't think of Richard and our love, our right to marry, and how much it meant to me tohave that freedom to marry the person precious to me, even if others thought he was the"wrong kind of person" for me to marry. I believe all Americans, no matter their race, nomatter their sex, no matter their sexual orientation, should have that same freedom tomarry. Government has no business imposing some people's religious beliefs overothers. Especially if it denies people's civil rights.
I am still not a political person, but I am proud that Richard's and my name is on a courtcase that can help reinforce the love, the commitment, the fairness, and the family that somany people, black or white, young or old, gay or straight seek in life. I support thefreedom to marry for all. That's what Loving, and loving, are all about.
*Well spoken!
Any thoughts?

Monday, May 5, 2008

First Sighting, Second Hair Argument

This weekend I decided to do some late night shopping that I love to do. Wal-Mart is so much more pleasant at 9 p.m. then in the middle of the afternoon. I'm at the check out line and five men with locks come my way. Now I have to say before that I would have not noticed their hair before. Being a locked chic in training makes you more in tuned with other fellow locked individuals.
Anyone notice this about yourself, having locks sighting awareness?
Three of them come right up to me in line and start to touch my hair and ask me questions. Then one said, "I love your sisterlocks". I told him that he was the first one to get that right and it felt good that he knew what they were. So that's it I'm a locked chic hee, hee.

Now on to the heffa with an attitude part of my weekend:

On Sunday I had a woman say to me, I like your braids, who did them for you and touched them. So I told her and added, thank you but these are locks, not braids. She got real close to my head and said oh now I see their twists. Well their very pretty, in a funky tone. I said no their not twists their locks. She said, no their twists they are done with a comb, right. I said, wrong their done by hand without using any chemicals or added elements. Then just like that she said, well you do know that when they get real long and start to get heavy your hair will break off. Also they are way to small which is why they will break.

Now stop, think about it. This is what I said to myself.

Because my son was with me, good for her. Due to the manner in which she said it and the look she gave my hair with her hand on her big hip. I never really thought that I would have to argue about hair on "my head" with someone else. Of course I told her that I've seen several other women with my type of locks down their backs, healthy and with locks two times smaller than mines. I told her that my hair was strong prior and would not just fall off because it grows. So maybe hers would but mines is good. She replied with an yeah well.............who did you say did your hair again? Still rolling her beta fish sized eyes?
Now ain't that a Bitch!!!!!!!
You'll know she didn't get that info from me again right ;-).

Thursday, May 1, 2008

Loc Questions...Need Your Answers

I have some questions ladies and gents, any deep thinkers willing to share their input or opinions?

In no order of course:

When do you know that your hair is starting to lock? Not everyone gets the balls on the ends.

How often do you wash your locks?

Do they begin to get fuzzy overtime if you don't use a head cover at night? Cause I don't.

Can baby locks be pulled during sex?

When folks say over styling your their baby locks, are they referring to curling and braiding them?

Why are locks so Taboo but some will wear braided weave for a life time?

Why is having locks considered to be exothermic and exotic to others? I keep hearing this.

Flavored lip gloss, why do I like it so much? Oh sorry I guess I was asking myself that one. :-.}

Thoughts Please?