JustSoBrandi

Side Note, Real Talk..........Thoughts and Break Ups....

2010-09-14T06:04:00.000-07:00

From time to time I post on things that have nothing to do with my hair. It's just how I feel at the moment so bare with me. My topic of discussion this post is relationships, marriage, divorce and real families. Now I know that everyone can relate to this in one way or another and hearing your personal thoughts can be helpful for me right now. The divorce rate is at 50% right now! Why is this? Mostly because some people do not show their complete true colors until after the marriage or even well into it after vows have been taken place. Promises made to your Dad, families and to each other at that point mean nothing. Then what, one or both of the individuals are left with the, what do I do now issue to deal with. Now we all know people who have no true coping skills to be honest and truthful. Something happens, a bad day at work, their tired, a headache and now you have to deal with their attitude and behavior. Then once their over it you should just forget everything said and done like it never happened. Craziness. A death in the family, divorce, a break up or job loss and they break apart completely. Now they have gone straight nuts, talking crazy. Acting like death is answer, these are the people who kill you, your kids and themselves. All because they are not getting their way and their pretending it's all your fault to their friends and family. Hitting holes in the walls, needing counseling, pills, or depend diapers under the age of 40. lol There is piles of cat or dog boo boo in every corner, clean and dirty clothes everywhere, nothing put up. Dirty floors and a bathroom you would not use at the park with a black tub. The house smells to high hell and bugs and bug eggs are everywhere. They just no longer clean their own house and have the nerve to invite guests over. They wait until the grass is having grass babies until they cut it or clean or spray all the overgrown weeds and let their own properties go straight to the pot. Only wipe their ass once every two days, turn into a hoarder, over buying needless crap. That covers every surfaces. When this happens they put their own children in a dangerous situation to even be around them in that environment and pretend like everything is o.k. However somehow the kids being around normal functioning people is an issue, Y? Y not admit that is not healthy and think of your children instead of thinking of their self?

Then they blame the other person for being this way, really?

I'm just not this type of person at all and I refuse to be due to another persons craziness. I do get emotional and sad and go through the whole process internally. I don't have to loose my mind in order to feel. If their madness sends me to jail, I will not be in a paper suit, peeing on my cell door. Getting beat up or going crazy. I will be alright, get me a book and survive until I get out cause I would not have deserved to be there. lol When people with children start disrespecting you in front of their own children. Bringing their bodies to an verbal battle or talking to you as if your a stranger and saying things that can't and that will never be completely forgiven. They don't truly care about anyone but themselves. They will never be able to admit it, no resolve will be meet and theres no change for a future together.

Now the divorce rate for a second marriage is much lower. If you choose to go back there again which most married people do. Most likely because you avoid the things up put up with during the first one? Who knows?

I just don't get why to some people that everything has to be so hard. I see some of these wedding shows where they are paying out 10,+ bucks for the wedding. Then in 6 months when stuff goes wrong or Mr. Right verbally abuses you, disrespects you as a person or hauls off and hits you. Ms. Right stops cooking, your eating a real meal maybe only once a week, quits her job and thinks that "she's married now", so she no longer has to do anything but have a child. You are left with bills to pay for years for a wedding that you no longer want to be in. A person your starting the truly dislike. We all come up with several reasons to stay, bills, but I think I love him or her, I don't want to start all over again with someone new or the sex is o.k. sometimes. The hassle of getting a divorce. Being a divorced person or for the kids, for the kids, for the kids. lol If things are not right after the first child why keep having kids with the same person. You know they will do the same stuff as the first time cause they thought that they did nothing wrong and refuse to admit they did for you to move past it then. Now two or three kids later you have even more responsibilities with them?

A lifetime of drama and internal depression. Y?

I don't get it and we all know many people born into a two parents homes of complete craziness. Yelling, name calling and fighting and secrets. Either that or a home of smiles and silents and no real discussion and minor hugs to go around. Those kids don't want kids in their lives as grown ups because they had to go to their friends homes growing up to be apart of a talking family. Both are families however they are dysfunctional families and still not ideal for children to be raised in. So why stay and put up with things that are never going to change and will most likely get worse with time for the rest of our natural born lives? I say don't do it, it's not worth it to waste your whole life in a bad situation! If you don't have family friends together or have a personal relationships with your in-laws after years where you can call and go with them alone that doesn't always involved your mate. Go to family gatherings and outing and not feel uncomfortable. A lifetime marriage will never work out.

We all as people know when a relationship or marriage isn't right. If you are not able to talk openly about everyday things and about real things. If you CAN'T talk to a person then there is no hope for the future. If a person becomes anger, gets instantly defensive, yelling, cuss you out, disrespecting you or jumping into your face are these things of normal behavior? Phyiscal abuse, mental abuse. I hope and know not! Or if the drama goes another directions, silence. Silence is so childish for anyone over the age of 20. When someone is silent you don't know what their thinking. If they have an uncontrollable temper then your just waiting for the bomb to hit and staying away from that person. Wondering if they plan to kill you all in your sleep. Or they are refusing to be able to have a real conversation that may not go their way. Blowing up your phone, going tho your phone records, putting listening devices in the home, following you and buying camcorders. Lying to their family and disrespecting yours. All for what? Why not just deal with the situation at hand. Break up, get divorced and move on with your life while we all still have one. Don't do things to try and take the kids cause they will hate you as an adult for being so selfish and thinking of only you later when it counts. Be better as a person, happy with someone new or be happy alone with some peace and maintain your new life. If you are unable to talk then why worry about the person talking to other people without the fighting. Face reality, it's over and done. Move on and act like an adult!

Don't have grown convos with a child, try to make them dislike the other. Be a liar with the your parents cause you will still have to be in contact with your ex's family for a lifetime. Your kids games, school functions, fiances, graduation and marriage and their children in the future. Let the person go, cut the bullshit, do what is best for your kids or self and try to be happy in this lifetime. There is a hard way to do things and a easy way where no one gets hurt and life continues while we all still have one.

If you care then show it by being a friend cause the union has ended. If you love something let it go, if it comes back it's your for sure. If you default and loose it again it was never your to keep.

Be happy, move on and become a better person.

Words to live by.

Thoughts or input or experiences to add anyone?

Summer Time Do.

2010-06-25T07:56:00.000-07:00

6-23-2010

Right now I'm rocking a curly bob for the summer time. I've been locked for two years now and I still love my hair long or short. I went in the get my retighting some highlights done but my hair just will not dye. I've tried several times and the only thing that works is to beach my hair and then add color. Sense this is very unhealthy to do with locs I found hair mascara! It's great, you choose any color you want to rock. Blond, bronze ( my new fav) red or whatever. You run it tho your hair and you have color without the dye. It looks natural and it doesn't overpower your whole head. It just washes right out and allows you to stay natural so for someone like me who has jet black hair. Color is now an option.

I still don't use rollers or curlers and after the summer, growth will be welcomed.

I just had my 33 birthday on June 23rd and it was a lot of damm fun.

At this point I still have hairs that loves to come loose from time to time. In those areas I braid them together before washing and before going swimming also. Once a week I spray in a leave in conditioner onto my scalp and onto my locs to keep them healthy. I have started to wear a head wrap in addition to sleeping on a silk pillow case at night and use a shower cap in the shower each day. This is not something I always did before but I have found that it keeps my hairs natural sheen if done everyday. I also love to wear my hair in a pony tail and I use the bandies that don't contain any rubber. So far I can say that I have no regrets about getting loced and it has saved me so much time and effect that it's unreal.

Diet, diet, diet

2010-06-11T16:47:00.000-07:00

So right now on most days it's hotter then a high priced whore outside!

So this means no over eating and then wearing half shirts outside while drinking a grape Slurpee and flirting at the gas station. I will be 33 yrs old soon so I have began a new diet just to slim down some cause why not right. When I was 25 I ate all the time and then after giving birth at 27 I still did and I stayed fit with some gym time. Now for some reason my breasts have decide to grow, con grads to me :-) But I feel the need to slim down to avoid the top heavy issue. You see when your a woman with large tasty breasts if you wear loose clothing it will hang from breasts causing you to look bigger than you really are. If you don't have a stomach you should wear tighter clothes to enhance your shape. However some people will think that you are trying to show your breasts by doing so. They are going to show no matter what you wear so chuck them. So this has brought me to this diet and to present day.

Now let's talk about healthy eating and salad bars. Now I went to the store with a friend one day and we were getting a salad from the salad bar. She is putting on eggs and fried chicken stripes and bacon, cheese and covering it with ranch dressing like she is painting the salad top with a brush. So I said, what kinda of salad is that? We should have just went to Burger King for you LOL, Am I right? Why do they put that yummy selection of crap out if it is support to be the healthy choice? Pepperoni and fried cheese should not be at the salad bar talking to people.

Like pick me, hey Big Butt, yeah, you, pick me.

I'm just saying, you put it there and it will get eaten. This pisses me off as a hungry person who can not eat a whole lot right now. Yesterday I saw this girl in a dark brown dress and mind you it's hot outside. The more I looked at her the more she started to look like coffee ice cream in a baked waffle cone. She most likely thought I wanted to eat her cause I kept acting like I was biting something and starring at her.LOL. Now that I think of it that would have been the dirtiest cone I have ever had. Wearing dark brown in 93 degree weather can't be good for anyone.

Damm it, I'm still hungry :-)
Anyone watching their weight?

Hair products used good and bad?

2010-06-11T16:40:00.000-07:00

Sending out an SOS

I have a question, please let me know.

What hair products does everyone use in their hair and how often? If it's water, don't tell me LOL.................

What products have you used that weren't so good? Broke your hair, dried it out made you look like powdered donut?

I'm asking cause I see so many products but of course most are bad and some are good to use. I have not had any breakage or loose so that leads me to think that what I use does my good good but maybe I'm wrong and I need to use something new and exciting. Fill me in on the hair run down.

The Black Out!!

2010-05-21T19:55:00.000-07:00

What's up All............

I have been blacked out temporary and missing in action!

OMG how time flys when your loced and not worried about the damm wind blowing.

I have been loced for two years now On April 1, no April Fools I really I have. My hair is thicker and fuller and growing. I have not had any breakage thank goodness but I am still having some slippage on the front and on the crown on my head. I have used different shampoos but I figure that you have to use what works for your hair. I love being loced but I don't love frizzy, dry or matted hair. I also don't want to looked loced at a glance cause I think that is the beauty of being loced. I believe I have continued to achieve that to this point anyway. I will upload some pics soon as possible but in the mean while I'm back and I will do better at posting and responding to my messages received.

So talk to me.

One Year!!

2009-04-27T09:28:00.000-07:00

Wow it has been a year sense I got locked up already. I have to say that my hair has not changed that much to be honest. I'm still locking and not using any products besides giving it a good washing every two weeks. It has grown so much but with the thickness and the curl of my hair has not changed. With time my hair has become more dense and that has made it easier to style and move around. The time has given me more options for styling and just with everyday wear. I'm a bandie girl with styling, if I feel like my hair being off of my neck I just grab a bandie. I wear a ponytail or twist it and then secure it, it's very easy and fun to do. I'm one of those lazy folks that doesn't curl or roll up my locks. I don't braid it for the curly look because it would be a waste of time. Now if I could straighten it sometimes then that would be fun for only a couple of days. But I enjoy just having wild hair that has no main style and that the wind can move around. I enjoy the softness that has stayed with time that I thought would leave. I enjoy my hair being touched by love ones and with locks I have been able to have them run their fingers though hair. I wash my hair with plain Suave shampoo as granted by my "Specialist". I blow dry and walk away, it can't get any easier then that. I go in every six weeks for my retightings that still take three hours to do. After a retightening I wait for three weeks before washing. Water loosening my hair some what so i avoid it within the first three weeks to let my growth move my scalp intend of the water.

So I'm one year in and looking forward to more growth.

Are you loving your locking process? Or no?

Tell me about it.

Chip Cherrio To Ya!

2009-04-16T14:52:00.000-07:00

Would you guys believe that my job had the nerve to change the system where I could not get into my page. Bastards! But I'm still around and locking and popping. My hair is still far from being locked the progress is going slow however I'm still glad that I did it. I will post in the next couple of days, until then, talk to me.
Any good new shampoos to use?

Walking and Locking

2008-11-03T12:45:00.000-08:00

On Sat November 1, I reached my 7th month of locking.

It's crazy just how fast that the time flies when your not wasting time combing and worrying about your hair. At this point I think of my hair as an after thought. It's crazy really compared to how much I did to maintenance my hair prior to locking. I have never curled or rolled my locs at this point yet and I really don't think I intend to until it's very long. I really don't think that it will be noticeable if I did so why bother? Now my hair has stopped slipping and my stiff curl has relaxed some what. At about four months my hair started to curl right up. My locks overnight looked shorter but to me were better because it showed I was making progress. Now when I get up in the morning my hair is an after thought. I put on clothes and get ready and then five minutes before walking out. I style my hair or just set it free to hang. I could never in a million years do that type of stuff when my hair was loose.
Length wise my hair is growing pretty quickly, and has really thickened up too. My hair is now a little past my shoulders with my stiff curl. The sizing of the locks I had installed has remained the same. They have not became larger over time as of yet, so on that only time will tell. I still get some bunching on the ends of my hair that my Specialist works on little by little during my retighting appointments. So at this time I still walking and locking and laughing.

How are your locs doing?

To Funny

2008-10-22T08:11:00.000-07:00

INSTALLING A HUSBAND
Dear Tech Support,
Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and noticed a distinct slow down in overall system performance, particularly in the flower and jewelry applications, which operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0.
In addition, Husband 1.0 uninstalled many other valuable programs,
such as Romance 9.5 and Personal Attention 6.5, and then installed undesirable programs such as
NBA 5.0,
NFL 3.0 and
Golf Clubs 4.1.
Conversation 8.0 no longer runs, and Housecleaning 2.6 simply crashes the system.

Please note that I have tried running Nagging 5.3 to fix these problems, but to no avail.
What can I do?
Signed,
Desperate

DEAR DESPERATE, First, keep in mind, Boyfriend 5.0 is an Entertainment Package, while Husband 1.0 is an operating system.
Please enter command: ithoughtyoulovedme.html and try to download
Tears 6.2 and do not forget to install the
Guilt 3.0 update.
If that application works as designed, Husband1.0 should then automatically run the applications Jewelry 2.0 and Flowers 3.5.

However, remember, overuse of the above application can cause Husband 1.0 to default to Grumpy Silence 2.5,
Happy Hour 7.0 or
Beer 6.1.
Please note that Beer 6. 1 is a very bad program that will download the Farting and Snoring Loudly Beta.
Whatever you do, DO NOT under any circumstances install Mother-In-Law 1.0 (it runs a virus in the background that will eventually seize control of all your system resources.)

In addition, please do not attempt to reinstall the Boyfriend 5.0 program. These are unsupported applications and will crash Husband 1.0.In summary, Husband 1.0 is a great program, but it does have limited memory and cannot learn new applications quickly.
You might consider buying additional software to improve memory and performance.
We recommend:
Cooking 3.0 and
Hot Lingerie 7.7.

Good Luck !
Tech Support

Current state of locking- 5 months

2008-08-19T06:52:00.000-07:00

At this point of my locking process at five months, I have learned so much about my hair and my texture because now it is free of products of any kind. Without gels and mooses, flat iron, a comb and a brush, I always thought that I would be lost. My hair has an even stiffer curl than I realized and it has caused my hair to draw up as my hair settles into a holding state. Its a good thing when it comes to daily care because I don't use rollers or a braid out when styling. As a result my hair senses to be grow fuller and wider first and then longer. (Weird)

Sense my last post I have changed my hair care products to Jamaican Mango and Lime http://www.rastagroup.com/. It is a lot cheaper and it's easier to use and available in stores. I would get so pissed rubbing that shampoo bar to get a lather and then rubbing it onto my scalp. I use the JML shampoo only right now but it is nice to know that they offer many different products that can be used in the future. So at five months locked, I'm still learning and watching my weekly progress and looking forward to my six month mark.

How is your process going? Learning anything?

My New Hottness

2008-07-28T07:04:00.000-07:00

I just started using black soap and I love this stuff and it smells so good. I saw some at the store this weekend and thought that I would try it. There are so many brands to pick from and different labels to choose from. I have very sensitive skin and using regular soap gives me issues with dry or itchy skin. Soaps that have dyes, perfumes or added unneeded ingredients are not good for the skin when water is added anyway. I've been using it for my face and body so far and I smell like a walking piece of sweet butter.

I'm three days in and loving it so far, has anyone else tried or use black soap to wash daily?

Skin Care Tips for Black Soap
Showering & Bathing - Lather up with our natural black soap. Use our Shea moisturizer or Shea Butter to moisturize your clean lustrous skin after a shower or bath.
For your face: You can just use our natural skin care black soap for just your face if you wish. You can wash your face once or twice a day. Or you can give yourself a facial with our black soap. It's simple. Get a small towel, dip it into some warm water, squeeze out and place the towel over your face for about 10 seconds or until the towel goes cold. Repeat several times. When you are done, wash your beautiful face with our black soap. Don't forget behind your ears, under your chin and your neck. Rinse with warm water. Moisturize with our Shea Moisturizer. OooooHH! Your skin will do back flips!
For your hair: That's right! Before there was shampoo, there was black soap. Since centuries ago, Africans have been washing their hair with this amazing soap. Don't take it from us. Try it yourself.! When you are done, use your regular hair conditioner and of course don't forget your Nasabb Kelechi Hair Oil. You need to feed your hair too.
http://www.sheabutter/ .com

Retightening Appointment Story

2008-07-21T14:20:00.000-07:00

I just went in on Friday for my third retightening at four months locked and it is unbelievable how I forget the tightness feeling that comes with getting it done. Me and my Specialist decided to switch to every four weeks instead of six for the next three months. The time will lessen my amount of new growth and the time it takes to retightening me each time. While at my appointment a women came in with her daughter. She was a white women with a mixed race child and she wanted her hair to be braided for a trip. My first reactions was to be shocked at the amount of damage to this little girls hair. Being with a different race means taking the time to listen to others who know how to do what you don't. Black hair needs moisture and to be washed and conditioned and so does the skin. To be with a black person you should know to ask questions and listen to input. When I asked about the little girls hair her mother preceded to say that she, the child does whatever she wants. That she twisted her own hair prior turning them into dreads and then decided to cut off her own hair last year because she saw someone else do it. I thought wow, because I was shocked that a child would have that kind of freedom with their hair and person. Me as a mother would never allow my female child to willingly do whatever, not care for her hair myself. Or take her to someone who knows what they were doing and not let the damage to remain on a child's hair.

I had to share that story because at the time it pissed on off! :-)

Loose Hair vs Locked Hair

2008-07-14T07:27:00.000-07:00

Loose Before Locked.............................. Locked 4 months

Almost daily I get asked about my hair, about how long did it take to do, what they are or asked if I curl my hair daily. The questions get a quick answer and the third one gets a hell no, cause I'm to lazy to curl my hair everyday even if I had to. Sisterlocks seem to be changing to norm of what people thought locks should look like. Sense they look more like loose hair and less like locks to most individuals who thought of locks as being done and looking one way. At this point I find myself noticing the amount of locked sisters I see weekly. I also pay attention to the style, sizing and differences of each person's hair I see. Are they neat, is each lock the same size, is it a hair style or a "I don't give a shit look". Then there are the loose hair women that look wonderful in their own style. Rocking added colors or even a weave or my personal favorite a hair cut that's unique to them. I have always felt that if the hair is broking or it is stressed from combing, then cut it. Nothing looks more wonderful then healthy hair, no matter how long your hair is. Even with seeing loose haired women, I no longer wish to go back at all. I'm sure like most who have done it. The thought of, why didn't I do this sooner pops into your head. I think of the times like when I went to the dentist office last year. My hair was pulled back into a bun, it was not good for trying to relax at all. Saying, "put your head back", would kill me because my hair was in the way. Sleeping is different for me also because if I had something cute going, even though I did it myself, I did not want to mess it up. I was also a slave to hair gel, I put it on my edges everyday. The frizz was cute on the top and sides but the edges I felt had to be smooth. All these things I have had to retrain myself to think differently in the last four months.

Going back to pressing, combing, fearing wind, and sleeping on my elbows is for the birds, I can't do it. So now I look at loose hair and wonder.....why? :-)

Anyone else feel this or feel they would like to turn back to being loose?

Locking Process

2008-07-01T14:31:00.000-07:00

Today I have been locked for four months now, funny now time flies when your not combing your hair. At this point I'm in need of a retighting like yesterday. I'm still trying to figure out ways to style my hair after about two weeks out from being retightened, craziness starts. After two weeks has pasted I start to look like Oh My, what happened to your hair. LOL. Sense getting loced my hair has went though many different stages. At first it was so soft that I could not touch it or wash it really. After the first month it got better and I was able to pull it up and do alot more styling and fixing. Month three my hair took on a stiff curl that released at the end of the third month. Now four months out I'm back to the softness stage with a lot of stinkage and curl. I've had a lot of growth, more in some spots then others for some reason.

I'm just sitting and waiting on my fifth month to see what will happen next.

Share your locing stages with me ladies, what stage are you in?

2nd Retightening and Locked 3 Months

2008-06-12T13:46:00.000-07:00

Gave my new growth the boot!

Still Free Styling

I just went in for my second retightening, I was so happy to go to I should have danced into the chair. I had so much new growth that it took 5 hours to get completed.
My hair it tends to turn very soft when wet. Which I'm learning can cause problems when the hair begins to dry because it wants to feather up. On the edges of my hair my Hair Specialist decided that going smaller would be better. It has made my hair look neater when pulled back and helped with preventing any locks from wanting to come down. I was told to always makes sure to pull each lock apart from one another after I wash. Which during my retightening hurt like a crab pinching me each time it was pulled apart.

June 1, 2008 marked my three month mark of being sisterlocked. I have no regrets for getting them so far. I'm enjoying the fact that I can wear my hair down and let the wind blow without checking my style. As time goes by I will look forward to my hair becoming harder or more stiff. When I pull my hair up now, which I enjoy doing. Right now when I pull my hair up the weight has to pull it back down after a spell because I don't have a lot of stiffness that I want to have.

Locked and loving it after three months.

Anyone have any lock complaints about their hair to share?

Scalp Madness

2008-05-20T14:34:00.000-07:00

Right now I'm having hair issues due to the amount of new growth that i have experienced since my re-tightening. At this point I still have two and a half more weeks to go before a next appointment. I don't know what I'm going to do to my hair until then.
Any cute idea remedies that anyone has used?

My solutions: cute head bands and washing once a week to remove the fuzzy look.

Off Topic: Mildred Loving: Strong Black Women

2008-05-06T09:42:00.000-07:00

May Mildred Loving Rest In Peace:

>> From today's New York Times.com> >

In Loving v. Virginia, Warren wrote that miscegenation laws violated the Constitution's equal protection clause. "We have consistently denied the constitutionality of measures which restrict the rights of citizens on account of race," he said. By their own widely reported accounts, Mrs. Loving and her husband, Richard, were in bed in their modest house in Central Point in the early morning of July 11, 1958, five weeks after their wedding, when the county sheriff and two deputies, acting on an anonymous tip, burst into their bedroom and shined flashlights in their eyes. A threatening voice demanded, "Who is this woman you're sleeping with?" Mrs. Loving answered, "I'm his wife." Mr. Loving pointed to the couple's marriage certificate hung on the bedroom wall. The sheriff responded, "That's no good here." The certificate was from Washington, D.C., and under Virginia law, a marriage between people of different races performed outside Virginia was as invalid as one done in Virginia.

At the time, it was one of 16 states that barred marriages between races. After Mr. Loving spent a night in jail and his wife several more, the> couple pleaded guilty to violating the Virginia law, the Racial Integrity Act. Under a plea bargain, their one-year prison sentences were suspended on the condition that they leave Virginia and not return together or at the same time for 25 years. Judge Leon M. Bazile, in language Chief Justice Warren would recall, said that if God had meant for whites and blacks to mix, he would have not placed them on different continents. Judge Bazile reminded the> defendants that "as long as you live you will be known as a felon." They paid court fees of $36.29 each, moved to Washington and had three children. They returned home occasionally, never together.

But times were tough financially, and the Lovings missed family, friends and their easy country lifestyle in the rolling Virginia hills. By 1963, Mrs. Loving could stand the ostracism no longer. Inspired by the civil rights movement and its march on Washington, she wrote> Attorney General Robert F. Kennedy and asked for help. He wrote her back, and referred her to the American Civil Liberties Union. The A.C.L.U. took the case. Its lawyers, Bernard S. Cohen and Philip J. Hirschkop, faced an immediate problem: the Lovings had pleaded guilty and had no right to appeal. So they asked Judge Bazile to set aside his original verdict. When he refused, they appealed. The Virginia Supreme Court of Appeals upheld the lower court, and the case went to the United States Supreme Court. Mr. Cohen recounted telling Mr. Loving about various legal theories applying to the case. Mr. Loving replied, "Mr. Cohen, tell the court I love my wife, and it is just unfair that I can't live with her in Virginia."

Mildred Delores Jeter's family had lived in Caroline County, Va., for generations, as had the family of Richard Perry Loving. The area was known for friendly relations between races, even though marriages were forbidden. Many people were visibly of mixed race, with Ebony magazine reporting in 1967 that black "youngsters easily passed for white in neighboring towns." Mildred's mother was part Rappahannock Indian, and her father was part Cherokee. She preferred to think of herself as Indian rather than black.

Mildred and Richard began spending time together when he was a rugged-looking 17 and she was a skinny 11-year-old known as Bean. He attended an all-white high school for a year, and she reached 11th grade at an all-black school. When Mildred became pregnant at 18, they decided to do what was elsewhere deemed the right thing and get married. They both said their initial motive was not to challenge Virginia law.

"We have thought about other people," Mr. Loving said in an interview with Life magazine in 1966, "but we are not doing it just because somebody had to do it and we wanted to be the ones. We are doing it for us." In his classic study of segregation, "An American Dilemma," Gunnar Myrdal wrote that "the whole system of segregation and discrimination is designed to prevent eventual inbreeding of the races." But miscegenation laws struck deeper than other segregation acts, and> the theory behind them leads to chaos in other facets of law. This is because they make any affected marriage void from its inception. Thus, all children are illegitimate; spouses have no inheritance rights; and heirs cannot receive death benefits.

"When any society says that I cannot marry a certain person, that society has cut off a segment of my freedom," the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. said in 1958.

Virginia's law had been on the books since 1662, adopted a year after Maryland enacted the first such statute. At one time or another, 38 states had miscegenation laws. State and federal courts consistently upheld the prohibitions, until 1948, when the California Supreme Court overturned California's law. Though the Supreme Court's 1967 decision in the Loving case struck down miscegenation laws, Southern states were sometimes slow to change their constitutions;

Alabama became the last state to do so, in 2000. Mr. Loving died in a car accident in 1975, and the Lovings' son Donald died in 2000. In addition to her daughter, Peggy Fortune, who lives in Milford, Va., Mrs. Loving is survived by her son, Sidney, of Tappahannock, Va.; eight grandchildren; and 11 great-grandchildren. Mrs. Loving stopped giving interviews, but last year issued a statement on the 40th anniversary of the announcement of the Supreme Court ruling, urging that gay men and lesbians be allowed to marry.

*May they know that their lives and their struggle to be free and happy was an example for me to follow. Who ever you love and for what ever the reasons, finding love is the most important thing. The divorce rate doesn't change due to your race.

From Mildred Herself:

I'm surrounded as I am now by wonderful children and grandchildren, not a day goes by thatI don't think of Richard and our love, our right to marry, and how much it meant to me tohave that freedom to marry the person precious to me, even if others thought he was the"wrong kind of person" for me to marry. I believe all Americans, no matter their race, nomatter their sex, no matter their sexual orientation, should have that same freedom tomarry. Government has no business imposing some people's religious beliefs overothers. Especially if it denies people's civil rights.
I am still not a political person, but I am proud that Richard's and my name is on a courtcase that can help reinforce the love, the commitment, the fairness, and the family that somany people, black or white, young or old, gay or straight seek in life. I support thefreedom to marry for all. That's what Loving, and loving, are all about.

*Well spoken!

Any thoughts?

First Sighting, Second Hair Argument

2008-05-05T09:09:00.000-07:00

This weekend I decided to do some late night shopping that I love to do. Wal-Mart is so much more pleasant at 9 p.m. then in the middle of the afternoon. I'm at the check out line and five men with locks come my way. Now I have to say before that I would have not noticed their hair before. Being a locked chic in training makes you more in tuned with other fellow locked individuals.
Anyone notice this about yourself, having locks sighting awareness?
Three of them come right up to me in line and start to touch my hair and ask me questions. Then one said, "I love your sisterlocks". I told him that he was the first one to get that right and it felt good that he knew what they were. So that's it I'm a locked chic hee, hee.

Now on to the heffa with an attitude part of my weekend:

On Sunday I had a woman say to me, I like your braids, who did them for you and touched them. So I told her and added, thank you but these are locks, not braids. She got real close to my head and said oh now I see their twists. Well their very pretty, in a funky tone. I said no their not twists their locks. She said, no their twists they are done with a comb, right. I said, wrong their done by hand without using any chemicals or added elements. Then just like that she said, well you do know that when they get real long and start to get heavy your hair will break off. Also they are way to small which is why they will break.

Now stop, think about it. This is what I said to myself.

Because my son was with me, good for her. Due to the manner in which she said it and the look she gave my hair with her hand on her big hip. I never really thought that I would have to argue about hair on "my head" with someone else. Of course I told her that I've seen several other women with my type of locks down their backs, healthy and with locks two times smaller than mines. I told her that my hair was strong prior and would not just fall off because it grows. So maybe hers would but mines is good. She replied with an yeah well.............who did you say did your hair again? Still rolling her beta fish sized eyes?
Now ain't that a Bitch!!!!!!!
You'll know she didn't get that info from me again right ;-).

Loc Questions...Need Your Answers

2008-05-01T10:28:00.000-07:00

I have some questions ladies and gents, any deep thinkers willing to share their input or opinions?

In no order of course:

When do you know that your hair is starting to lock? Not everyone gets the balls on the ends.

How often do you wash your locks?

Do they begin to get fuzzy overtime if you don't use a head cover at night? Cause I don't.

Can baby locks be pulled during sex?

When folks say over styling your their baby locks, are they referring to curling and braiding them?

Why are locks so Taboo but some will wear braided weave for a life time?

Why is having locks considered to be exothermic and exotic to others? I keep hearing this.

Flavored lip gloss, why do I like it so much? Oh sorry I guess I was asking myself that one. :-.}

Thoughts Please?

Oh Wow I've been Tagged. Thanks Yasmeen

2008-04-25T09:50:00.000-07:00

The Rules are as follows:1. link the person who tagged you…2. mention the rules in your blog…3. tell about 6 unspectacular quirks of yours4. tag 6 following bloggers by linking them5. leave a comment on each of the tagged blogger’s blogs letting them know they’ve been tagged.
Here are my six things:

1. I'm a flower child at heart with a mouth piece that is pure evil at times. :-)

2. I absolutely love pickles, I put them on everything and eat them with everything. Some how it all taste better if a sour dill pickle is added.

3. I can hear and see like a cat. Both a blessing and a curse. Most things that are to loud drive me up the walls and my ears will ring for hours. I hate to be kissed any where near or around my ear opening. It's a complete turn off when someone does it.

4. I can't stand the smell of Play Doe every sense I was a child. It makes me sick to my stomach and I have refused to buy it for my son now.

5. I love to wrestle and play. But girl style of rough house of course no punching and going over board. I can't stand men that can not be soft without getting mad and trying to hurt you.

6. I love it when someone smells good, soft scents or someone that draws you in.
Men or women if someone smell good they can tell me anything cause then I'm listening.

Now who to tag next:
How about: Yummy411, Allecia, Gena, Aya, Don and Shavonne

First Retightening Session 1 Month

2008-04-25T08:25:00.000-07:00

Yesterday I went in for my first retightening session with my
(Hair Specialist: Shaun). I mentally prepared myself for the long haul but in the end it only took 3 hours to do. I almost did a dance when I got up to leave. She said that my hair is doing just fine and as excepted I did have some slippage. In the very back and in the top I had some that came completely loose. But it was only about four locks so in all not to bad. I'd had about an half an inch of new growth to get retightened. I forgot what it felt like for my hair to be tight at the scalp again. Now you can see the scalp line in the very front and along the back again if my hair is up.
I sat there as another stylist in the salon washed and curled and weaved other clients in the salon. Oh the smell of burning hair! I said that I was so damm happy that I no longer had to go though all of that madness. I would go in and sit for an hour maybe, pissed. Get washed and conditioned and comb wrapped up. I would sit under the dryer for 2 hours holding my ears and then get my hair still blown dry and sometimes straightened with a presser. I could not sleep on it to hard, get it wet in the shower and worst of all it would go right back to being curly and needing to be redone in three to four days. Pissed again.

Now I wake up, spray in some water, shake and walk the hell out.
I have to say that at first I hated that I could not put gel on the edges and brush them down. It was just my norm to tame all of my hair to give that smooth sweep back appearance. But I'm over it now and I'm learning to like my untamed but more manageable hair.
I'm learning it is a process of time thing.

Anyone else going though the "I'm learning to except my hair product free phase"?

Rocking My Pony- April 17,2008

2008-04-17T10:30:00.000-07:00

Just rocking my pony tail during the first stages of locking maddness. :-}

Product Give Away- 2 weeks

2008-04-10T10:48:00.000-07:00

I become more aware of my hair everyday as it ages and settles into locking. I can move it more and it is growing. Although at this stage everyone thinks that I just have really small braids with extensions added. I went back into my closet and saw all the products that I now feel comfortable parting with. I called all my girls and associates and asked around to see who would like what. I figured that some things are saleable and others can be used, just not by me. So many curling irons and straightening irons with a attached brushes for drying. Balms, moouse and shampoos and conditioners that will just go to waste sitting inside the closet. Although it will be a sad thing to give up my brush. I loved to use that brush.

If it has to be done then so be it.

After two weeks now, I have experienced itching, more itching, burning itching LOL.

Love of my locs and dislike for them also.

Stupid questions and stares and expressions of being totally confused, like what is that braids or no? But I still feel good in my choice and I look forward to them settling where I can let and sun baked the top of my head in the summer time with my wind blowing.

So the question is, what can I keep for later use?

Just oils for mixing?

The combs and brushes will have to go out.

But what else?

First Wash, Why?

2008-04-04T10:24:00.000-07:00

Last night I did my first wash already after: only four days of being locked. Why?

Because the title of this post should have been itchy, itchy, scratch, scratch! Yesterday out of the blue my head started to itch out of control. Which was weird to me due to the fact that all I have used in my hair is pure water in a spray bottle. All yesterday when I spoke to people I was patting my head, I listened to them talk and inside I thought, what is on my head? Has anyone else experienced this? Never in all my days has my scalp itched so much or had to be washed because of intense itching. Actually because of the thickness of my hair until you get right up on me no one sees that my hair is parted at all.

Last night I decided that I had enough and if I didn't wash my head then someone would see my inside wrath sooner or o.k., right now. I parted my hair into small sections making about twenty different braids. I used cloth, no pulling colored ponytail holders that can be found at any retail store on the ends. I also used snap clips to hold the front and the back nap areas of the hair. I'm a fan of the Knotty Boy Products so I grabbed my shampoo bar and went to work. Oh the feeling of sweet relief was given almost admittedly to my head. I squeezed the water out of each braid and wrapped a towel around my head for five minutes to gather any extra water. After five minutes I removed the towel, hair ties and upbraided each section and with the clips still in place I used the blow dryer on the lowest setting it gently dry my hair.

I have to say without putting my foot into my mouth by talking myself up, that it looked better after washing and best of all no more itch at all......Crazy.

Any itch stories anyone?

Day One............

2008-04-01T08:13:00.000-07:00

This is me after my final day of locking and the morning after. My hair has a curl pattern so it remained with the locks. So far I'm very happy with my second decision to lock. I can't believe that I can spray water in my hair and just walk away. LOL Hair type 3b with a lot of shrinking when water is added. It looks just like my hair did before only now no more combing and brushing or products...Amen!
No brushing, combing or products...Amen (I had to say that again).

It's weird already come day two:

Everyone keeps asking me if I cut my hair again. Blind Bats :-)

Ready ......Set....Locked

2008-04-01T07:10:00.000-07:00

After

Before

My adventure into Lock Town started on March 28,2008 bright and early in the morning. Prior Shaun (my hair specialist :-}) told me that if my hair was shorter than the price would be this instead of that. So I said where are the scissors? So I take my hair from 13-14 inches to 10 inches 2 months prior to my locking appointment. Shaun says that my hair is 12 inches now at the time of locking my unpermed mane. The first day was madness where my thoughts went in and out from terror to smiles. On the first day Shaun worked for nine hours and one half the back of my big head was pretty much completed. I have to tell everyone that when I saw it I was like oh my goodness what did I do to my hair.

End Of the First Day

On the second day, with my ass hurting, stomach growling with a movie bag in hand I returned to the chair for more locking. The second day of locking took 13 hours. Where at the end the top half remained free. However I started to see the change in my hair and what was going down. I was turning into a "locked chic, hell yah" and I was starting to like it.

At the end of the third and last day and a total of 27 hours I was complete.

I went straight to the hair shop where I brought a head scarf because I have never worn one before and a water bottle.

So hip, hip hooray and cheerio, my ass is locked and here I go:

Hell Ya!

2008-03-24T12:03:00.000-07:00

Hair Before:

Hell Yah,

I have four days left and at this point. Now I can STOP talking my love ones and everyone else to death about getting my sisterlocks done.

At this time I have to say that I'm a little scared, truth be told.

Like, what if I don't like it?

What if my head looks like a Chia Pet for the first two weeks?
So many questions, so little time :-)
I figure if I don't like it, I will just cut it off and start over.
Even though it can be taken down by hand, that looks like something that my soul will not allow. So they will be here to stay.

So for now, I coming to join all you sexy ladies..

Marching with the wind blowing.

Until then........................

Question of Hair Color

2008-03-19T07:25:00.000-07:00

Blondie/Red

Pink

----^---------------^---NOT SEXY?-------^------

Black

------^^--------SEXY?--->>----

Natural Reddish Brown

images from:

www. BlackHairMedia.com

This post is to ask about personal choices when it comes to HAIR COLOR.

Despite whether your a locks lover, like me or your programmed to think of locks as a dried pieces of rope that the hype would like you to believe, (Which is not true by the way). If you have not seen someone with beautiful locks free flowing and healthy, you would be lead to believe what you hear.

However every one has a personal preference of what hair colors are considered to be be sexy, retro or just plain ghetto. Both men and women, all races and on any hairstyle everyone has an opinion of this subject.

Picture it: Your walking in the mall and coming towards you is a woman over 18 years old, who has on blue shoes, a white shirt, and yes black hair with bright BLUE ends.

Now for some, the thought process would be:

"WHAT THE HELL WAS SHE THINKING?"

Hair colors like blue, ice bleach blonde or pink, white; red or even a traditional Blondie on a black women are seen to be more "Taboo", to most black people and every other racial group. Now of course their are exceptions to every rule and their are a select few who can pull off being a Blondie or red headed and rock it like a super star. But never the less some colors were created for Halloween but are now being worn as everyday hairstyles. This debate goes across all economic lines and races. When dealing with your profession or even being seen as a powerful force when these styles are being worn on a daily basis. Most careers, not jobs when working under someone or in a business setting will NOT allow an employee to work with rainbow shaded hair. When dealing with the public, more natural shades are wanted to represent that company or organization. When looking for a professional to provide a service to you their outward appearance has to do in part with your decision to purchase from them.

So sad, but so true.

Anyone agree or disagree?

Does your hair color matter, locks or not?

I think so.

Girls Vs. Grown Women?---Off Hair Topic

2008-03-17T12:44:00.000-07:00

This is a poem of thought, it's open to each persons opinions on each issue.

I got it from my girl Mo, please read it and enlighten me.

Let me know what your thoughts are.
Have any examples that make some points into an exception in your personal case?
Are grown women asking boys to be a man?
Are grown women looking for grown men but acting like girls?
Are the points TRUE or NOT?
I personally think so.

Grown Women:

Girls want to control the man in their life.
Grown women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling.

Girls check you for not calling them.
Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn't.

Girls are afraid to be alone.
Grown women revel in it using it as a time for personal growth.

Girls ignore the good guys.
Grown women ignore the bad guys.

Girls make you come home.
Grown women make you want to come home.

Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans.
Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits.

Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man.
Grown women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.

Girls try to monopolize all their man's time (i.e., don't want him hanging with his friends).
Grown women realize that a little bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special-and goes to kick it with her own friends.

Girls think a guy crying is weak.
Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue.

Girls want to be spoiled and 'tell' their man so.
Grown women 'show' him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his 'manhood'.

Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it.
Grown women know that was just one man.

Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all 'signs'.
Grown women know that sometimes the one you love, doesn't always love you back-and they move on, without bitterness.

Girls will read this and get an attitude.
Grown women will read this and pass it on to other Grown women and their male friends.

What parts do you agree or disagree with?

Time and Product Withdrawal

2008-03-13T07:35:00.000-07:00

This is our little Superman sending me a kiss to give me the strength I need.

Lately I'm having time issues!

I feel time is passing like molasses dripping down the wall! Will I ever get my sisterlocks done.....could the 28th come any faster? It doesn't feel like it Damm It! Each day when I wake and I have to comb my hair it is really starting to cause me some irritation.

Not only that, I'm starting to already have product withdrawals.

I have one that I know I can no longer use that I LOVE.

Oils, I love hair oils and I put coconut and carrot oil it into my hair during the day sometimes just because it feels good on my scalp. Everything else I can do without like a brush, mousse and "oh the dreaded comb". I can do without these items, no problem.

But the oil is like hair crack.....how do I stop?

Help me ladies, any suggestions?

How did you stop?

Here I Come.....

2008-03-06T13:57:00.000-08:00

Hair before sisterlocks..no perm

I'm so excited that I could do back flips that I have three weeks left before getting my sisterlocks. Oh yeah here I come, no more combing and brushing, no more buying hair supplies monthly and worrying about the wind, rain or snow rearranging my do. I'm so excited some times I get into the computer just to look at other peoples sisterlocks so I can think, dream of what mines will look like. Is it possible to be addicted to LOOKING at others sisterlocks LOL?
My installation date is 3/28/2008 and I can't wait to get this hair party started. I have brought new earrings and new colored lip gloss too.
Oh yeah 22 more days, I'm counting down again baby.......................

I was told that the thinner your hair the smaller your locks should be to create thickness over time. The thicker your hair the larger they should be to have styling options later without having to much hair to pull back. Also without sitting for four hours or more to get re-tightened. Anyone with small or micro locks experience this? I decided on medium across the entire top crown and large in the back where my hair to very full and thick.

Also what is this debate about leaving the ends of the hair loose and NOT cutting them off? If I have never had a perm then it is not considered to be leaving permed ends it is just leaving my hair loose. Lisa Bonet is a wonderful example of having long flowing healthy locks with loose ends. I likes it and I'm going to rock it,

I don't give a damm!

Any personal opinions on leaving loose ends?

Just 3 weeks left:

I'm rrrrreeeeaaaaddddyyyy!

( I'm singing that loudly by the way :-} ).

Hair Wonderful........

2008-02-18T08:48:00.000-08:00

Strong and Unique

Three examples of beautiful women who are stunning with dreadlocks and have always be an inspiration to me. Vanessa Williams and Lisa Bonet and Katherine from http://www.creameofnature.com/ are three fabulous examples of how locks can be different, sexy and feminine. Love them rocking their locs!
*Alright now, I just saw a picture of Vanessa Williams with her locks cut off and replaced with a weave and I must say that I'm disappointed. I don't like that at all, I said at all! I suppose this was done in order to promote her career and allow others to change her look. Hair can really change your face with a different color or style. However I think that she should have wigged it like everyone else in Hollywood and kept her style.

Has anyone seen her with the weave? Any opinions?

Weight Management

2008-02-17T10:55:00.000-08:00

In this day and age of fashion and glam a girl has to be in tune with her personal weight management. Weight is one thing that is to each it's own just as with hair. For me this is something that I have always had to watch and keep track of. Having a baby at 27 made it a little harder to keep food out of my mouth and fat off my ass. So the only way to combat weight gain is management. Everybody loves a head strong women and hates a women with a "big head". But the important part is being comfortable with Self. It seems that everything on televison is pulling a women to be thin and only have 5% body fat. However we are all still suppose to have hips, breasts of ample size and a bootie from a video. So we need fat in the right places. So my struggle to maintain will always continue from a lifetime. I like to eat so Billy Blanks Tea Bo, water and at home workout tapes are my friends.
So how does everyone keep track of self?

My Personal War with Products

2008-02-06T11:13:00.000-08:00

I recently decided to reorganize my closets and deciliter everything from last year. I keep everything in bins that are labeled in the front with the thought that I'm a step ahead by doing so. I came to the linen closet and pulled out five large bins of just hair products. When I poured them onto the floor to sort them I was amazed. I can't believe the amount of money that I have spent of just hair product alone. There were at least 25 bottles of just shampoo that I have not used more then two times. Conditioners that were used once and in the largest sized available to buy. Now that doesn't included the styling products that look as if I have really never used them at all. Balms, mousses, gels and clips and hair ties in every shade of the rainbow. I had two bottles of the same leave in conditioners that I have never opened that had price tag of $19.99 on them. I thought that this was so unbelievable and I will be opening an account with e-bay to sell all these products due to the fact that some were new and said to "make my hair flawless." So seeing all these products it made me think that I must have a mental block that tells me to go buy it cause I see it on television. Order it cause the computer told me to do it today, or worse. Or someone said, "girl that stuff is wonderful, you should try it." Without giving up a small sample.
Why do I have this problem?
I buy all this stuff and use it, then decide that it doesn't smell right. It doesn't lather and that it does nothing for my hair like it was said to do. Then instead of taking it back and getting my money back, I'm right back at the Beauty Brands buying more use less products. At least with the sisterlocks I was be limited to the amount of products and the type of products that I'm able to buy and use. Right now I'm nuts about the Knotty Boy products and I don't even have the locks yet.From my count I have spent the useless amount of $455.00 without tax that is just sitting back in the bins in the closet. I need to slap myself for that.
Does anyone else have the buying products sickness?
What is your product of choose?

MY POEMS

2008-01-29T16:44:00.000-08:00

I love to write poems and short stories about anything really from love to sex or love to loss of love. So I started this post to share a few poems here. Any comments or feeling after reading them?

POEM FROM MY MINDS EYE- Contains some adult content.

SO IN LOVE

I’m in love with a man
And I can’t even complain-
Hell I should
Come to think of it- he’s the one to blame
The way he kisses me- places his lips on mines
Makes me feel as if I’m stuck in time
Only seeing the now-
Don’t care about the past
Not excited about the future
Just to love him as much as I can-
Today And today _ ONLY-
For I know this day will end.
I will go to sleep lonely. Wake up tomorrow
And he’ll be gone- but
On A Bright Note
Tomorrows the future-
Remember I’m living for today
Going to cherish him, love him, do everything I can
To put a smile on his face
A sparkle in his heart, Wetness in his pants
Yes it is true. I love him,
I cannot lie
Not a minute goes by. I think of him everyday.
I’m IN LOVE with this MAN.
And I can’t even complain
His body is so soft. He’s got the frame I likes.
From his cheeks, to his chest, to his strong embrace
To his presence- to the wanting in his eyes
This is the man I had to have
How can I be so lucky- He sexes me like no other
Gives my middle so much attention-I’m a lucky woman!
If I forgot to mention.
He holds her so tight- and sucks her hard when he goes in for an attack
Makes her feel things she has never felt.
Large turns to larger and it fells so right
His cock is a sight-mmmmmm It tastes just right.
You would think it was made just for me -it was
The way it molds inside of me
His tongue grabs me and pulls me near
Telling him not to stop, cause climax is near
I need it right now. Honestly everyday
Lets find a child free place for me and you to always get away
I like the way he smiles, The way he talks
The way those shoulders sway as he walks
I’m in love with a man-
And I can’t even complain
He’s done something to my damm brain
Makes me love in a different way
Opens me up to a different view-
helps me do better
I’m not a perfect woman- was this in the master plan
Was he brought to stimulate my mind
Is he the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow
I’ve been trying to find
I’m IN LOVE with this man
Until the end of time.

Dec 2007

A Vision Of Love

As I sit here
I close my eyes to mediate
Darkness takes over
To provide in seconds, A Vision of Love
A place filled with peace, drama free
That takes me deeper into a trans.

I see you in my mind, floating over my head
making me grin.

No longer bothered by the meaningless jestures
of the unimportant people in my world

But to be carried away to a place
that is only known by the true concept of
LOVE

As I journey deeper within the walls of pure estasy
I feel a passion
That can only be called
You!

A feeling that can only be obtained from within
Only one must feel the desire to give
as well as recieve.

A Vision of Love Revealed itself to me
The Beholder
The Beholder has the desire to be hold
Not just by anyone
By the neutar of your being
The satistfier that can only be known as
You.

2007

STARTING MY HAIR COUNTDOWN..........

2008-01-28T12:35:00.000-08:00

Ten ,nine, eight, seven.......................

So I'm mentally starting my hair countdown to
sisterlocks or a.k.a. "My Hair Freedom". I have been
rocking my three test locks like they are made of white
gold. People already ask me about them because I have
made them all jazzy with beads hanging on them. I walk down
the street like what, what yes this is how the
remainder of my head will look in 56 days. LOL
Already I have to explain that no it will not be a weave
or hair extensions or braids. That yes I can wash it and
style it and everything that I really do not want to do
with my natural hair every three days. But I still do.

When I can, I go to other sisterlocks blogs and look at
the differences of the hair styles,read the stories, look
at their loc sizes and even the expressions on their faces.
Having freedom of any kind always brings a change in a
persons inward appearance. Sometimes they smile more
or move without caring about the outside world and
what others think you should do, look like, want or go.

Being a woman that is said to be stubborn as hell I
have always marched to my own drum. I did not get a real
voice until college but hey I got it which is the important part right.

Looking forward to the change in my hair makes me
look forward to the changes in other things like my
figure as I get older. It makes me look at what I eat
and drink more and how reducing the amount of products
to my hair means reducing the sugar to goes into my
mouth. It is funny how my mental thought process
changes my desire to do more at being ME.

I have had just about every hair style known to man. I
have done every thing but a perm. I take that back I did
do a "Just for Me" once and ended up running to the
bathroom looking for water after 10 minutes. I had
sores on my scalp for two weeks after that and it hurt
like hell but my hair was so silky, but I could not touch it
cause it hurt to bad. I have worn braids and curls and
clips with my hair to both sides the front and the back.

In 2001 my hair was down my back and I was standing
in the bathroom mirror and thought I need a change. I
grabbed the clippers and cut it all off! It was about 2
inches all around and it felt great. Of course everyone
thought that I had lost my mind. I even added some
hair paint in blond for highlights. My hair is so dark that
color does not take really. I choose to leave hair dye
alone having jet black hair will have to do. In 2005 I
decided that I wanted brown sugar hair. It was the new
thing then and most video Chic's were rocking it with oil
sheen in it that made it look even better. I went and got
some bleaching mix to remove all of my color and then
dye my hair with the brown sugar. Sounded good at the
time! Boy was I wrong!My hair turned off white and then
after dying it turned bright orange like a walking piece of
fruit! My name should have been Topicana for a week I
had a family dinner the next day so I had to go to
Sallie's and buy three cans of brown color spray and use
them for the next week until I could make it to my
sisters house for her to fix it. She laughed and
laughed...heifa.So sisterlocks will make everything much
easier and make mornings a joy, I'm looking forward to
it.

Has anyone else felt this change start to happen before or after getting sisterlocked?

MY Sisterlocks Consultant

2008-01-25T10:18:00.000-08:00

My Sisterlocks Consultant--Shaun
This pretty lady is my consultant Shaun she is located in Kansas City, MO and has proved to be the right beautician for me. She has given all the needed materials and pictures and has answered every question that I have had and there has been several. The fact that I look at this as a permanent hairstyle change I have asked every thing under the sun and then some. Finding the right consultant to deal with you, after reading many different blogs I see a good understanding is very important in helping the beauty and longevity of your sisterlocks. Shaun offers a Sisterlocks Package that can be changed and adjusted to fit each individual. I will post my progress and changes as they happen...now.
Check her out, cause I think she a winner!
Hair Styles By La Shaun
http://www.yournaturalimage.com/
816-695-3563
Hair Styles

THINGS Learned and Told NOT TO DO........

2008-01-24T08:49:00.001-08:00

1. Don't go swimming, jump into a lake or get freaky in the shower without braiding and banding your locs down for the first couple of months.
2. Don't wash your hair with non-approved shampoo and conditioners for the first six months--they will cause them to unravel and separate........I've seen it!
3. Don't use any gels or oils to "tame your new locs". Let them do what they do.
4. Don't use hot curling irons or pressing irons on the locs. At least not in the beginning.
5. Don't color or dye your hair in the beginning due the amount of times it has to be rinsed to remove the dye.

Thing to do....also what I'm planning:
Be free as a bird swallow...LOL

TEST LOCS

2008-01-24T07:14:00.000-08:00

Today I had my first step to joining the sisterhood of beautiful sisterlocks. Right now I have three test locks that are placed on the right side of my head. I made sure not to put any gels, spray or oils into my hair before going to my appointment. My consultant has placed two different types of locks, I have one Reverse "4" and two "4"s. I will return in two weeks and my consultant Shawn will check my progress and make a decision on which one will be the best for locking my hair. We decided to take two days to do my locks so that we both can be as comfortable as possible during the beginning of my journey. I always love going to her shop because she is very passionate about her work and has remained professional though out my experience. I continue to feel my test locks and imagine what the future will hold as my locks mature and a new me begins to form.

PLEASE REFERENCE MY BLOG WHEN COPYING AND ASK FOR PERMISSION TO COPY PHOTOS!!! Thank you

2008-01-23T14:13:00.000-08:00

Don't make me throw poo at ya.

Don't start none, want be none.

MY LOVE 4 THE LOTUS FLOWER

2008-01-23T13:32:00.000-08:00

I have always loved the Lotus Flower!

Much like a child from a seed it grows in water and gets more beauitful with time as it changes the same with a butterfly does. It comes in white, cream, and soft shades of peach, pink and purple. It is used in serveral different creams, scrubs and oils to enrich the glow of skin. Lotus flowers are beautiful in both appearance and smell. Lotus is symbol of purity. Starting life as a seed, it grows in the muddy darkness at the bottom of a pond. The darkness is like our ignorance - we can't clearly see the truth about life. The seed grows toward the warmth and light of the sun just as humans naturally grow toward the warmth of love and compassion, and toward the light of truth. The mature flower floats on the surface, bathing in the full light of the sun, well 'anchored' but moving freely according to the flow of the water - the changing current of any situation. www.flowerpictures.net

2008-01-23T11:32:00.000-08:00

Being a Mother and Hair Styling

2008-01-23T11:16:00.000-08:00

I am blessed to have a little three year old son, I believe that GOD knew that me and combing hair would not mix. Every morning I spray his hair with smoothing and detangling spray, run my fingers through it and send on his way. I still have to cut his hair once every two weeks really to keep it at bay. If and when I become a mother of a daughter this process will take a turn for the worst and I will have to start learning the hair combing process. Now me on the other hand, getting sisterlocs will be Wonderful. I believe that getting them done will shorten my mornings even more and make me a much happier camper ;-)

SISTERLOCING "GOOD HAIR"

2008-01-23T09:40:00.000-08:00

O.k. so I have been so lovestruck by the apperence of sisterlocs! I have been so excited from the first time I saw them in an ad a year ago. I first started by printing out a photo and asking everyone I know what they thought about these locs. Of course, the first question was, "Do they look like dreadlocks over time"? NO, I personally don't think they they do, also it is wonderful how each person looks different according to their own personal hair type and texture. The second question is always, "Why would you loc YOUR hair"? Having what is said to be "good hair" doesn't mean that it takes no effect to keep it styled. Me personally my main expenses when it comes to my hair are on products. Taming shampoos, conditioners, leave-ins and gels and moouse cost money too! I'm not a women who likes to go to the Salons and I have always hated it. Sitting in a chair and waiting for hours, then getting washed and put under the dryer for another 2 hours. Then getting my hair pressed and styled for me have to wash it three days later after spending 50 dollars or more every week or two all adds up to.....No Damm Fun!

Even though I'm told that it will take alot longer to loc "good hair" I think it is a risk worth taking and a empowering one too. I believe that each women is beauitful in their own way. Some men don't understand the links most woman go to for the "Queen's Glory" or a wonderful head a hair. Good hair or NOT my journey will start on March 28, 2008 and I can't wait.
I'm coming with my locs shining..................................